This is assuming that everyone gets along, living arrangements have been discussed, any conflicts resolved, and everyone is on board with the plan. You must be realistic about multi-generational living. Learning how to make multi-generational living work can be tough. It wouldn't have worked out if my father had been involved. We had too many personality conflicts. My mother, however, was happy to be with us and fit into our family dynamic. Everything was not always easy. Most especially when it reached the point when it was not longer safe for her to stay with us. Out of all the decisions that I made on her behalf, that was by far the hardest. No matter what, you must be comfortable and at peace with merging households.
If your multi-generational situation turns into a caregiving situation, which some do, consider hiring personal care help. I thought I was super woman and that I could handle it all. Caregiver burnout is real and different things crept up to exhaust me. With dementia, it was common for Mom to think she had just recently eaten or bathed. She wasn't happy to hear her daughter tell her it was time for a bath. I never wanted her to feel like I was bossing her around or being disrespectful to her. Not bathing, however, was not an option. So while my overriding goal was that my mother was always happy in our home, I had to find a solution that would work for both of us. Voila! I hired a personal care service to come in three times a week to help her bathe and I didn't have to be the 'bad guy'. She would refuse to do it for me, but she didn't for the dear ladies that came in to help. And, huge bonus, they worked with her on language skills, physical movement and would encourage her to eat. She looked forward to their 'visits' and was eager to share what they did with us after they left.
Multi-generational living can have challenges, but it also has many joys and benefits. In the meantime, I hope this article helped and I'd be happy to answer any questions or concerns you might have about seniors living options.